When this day approaches each year, I always think to myself, “It can’t possibly be 12 years since 9/11.”
But it is…and I find myself shaking my head again. Same as I do each year…shaking my head in amazement.
Yet it’s a day anyone who was an adult then, will always remember.
They’ll remember where they were, what they were doing when they first heard about the attacks, and mostly, who they knew who was either killed or affected by this tragedy.
Sometimes people who weren’t deeply affected by this day will often wonder how the families can keep coming back for more pain, especially by the reading of the names at the World Trade Center.
And my answer is that when a loved one is taken so suddenly, it takes many years to let it sink in. And in this case, many more.
But regardless of how long ago a person has died, when the anniversary of their death comes around, it triggers memories and there isn’t anything one can do to act like those emotions don’t exist.
They do and they hurt. And while a person may feel very emotionally stable the other parts of the year, when that day comes, sometimes a flood of emotions come with it.
And there is nothing to feel guilty about; it is all natural.
So on this day, to the family members and friends of those who were killed…whatever you are feeling…feel it. Embrace it. And after the pain has softened…begin again.
We all love you regardless of how you express your pain on this 12th Anniversary. You are entitled to it all.
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